Dear Busy Mom Friend,
I hear what you are saying: the hours of 4:30-6:30pm are the WORST each day. I’m tired and hungry, my kids are tired and hungry, and I want to be done with All. The. Things. But sitting down with my feet up is not an option. Instead, I light a candle, grab a bubbly water, take a few deep breaths, and carry on. For some reason, the simple act of lighting a candle allows me to let the yelling and complaining just roll off.
Now that I realize the impact of this 30 second ritual on my mood, I’ve tried to weave it into other stressful times of my day. I guess it’s not realistic to say to my coworkers, “can we pause for a minute so I can light my calming candle?”, so I use my ritual during parenting times. And it actually helps!
What actions do you take to find calm in the chaos? Closing your eyes and taking a few deep breaths is a great way to recenter your mind. Or playing your favorite playlist to change the mood. I would recommend staying away from picking up your phone and scrolling. Scrolling may be calming in the short term, but it doesn’t help regulate your emotions to calmly approach the present stressful moment.
Why have a calming ritual? Because when you are calm, others around you will calm. Yes, for real, kids included. Maybe you already do something automatically to calm down- name it! Recognize that the space around you is a circus, and then take control of yourself with your calming ritual.
After listening to a great podcast (Live Free Creative Podcast episode 126) about routines and rituals, I started naming my routines and rituals. This task of naming what is calming has empowered me to take control of my emotions during the circus that is 4:30-6:30pm.
Now is the time to share…what is your calming ritual?